WordPress Site Being Discontinued

Hi Folks,

Thank you all so much for your contributions to this site over the years but the time has come to consolidate our online presences to a singular channel.  To achieve this, we will be shutting down this WordPress site in the near future.  It is simply too difficult and unnecessary to manage two websites and all of the headaches that come with keeping them up to date.  In the future, please visit our main site for all information regarding the GLCC.  www.glccpgh.org.  In the future we may continue community blog posts on the new website as we work to add content.

Thank you in advance for your understanding!

-Gary, Board Chair

My Asexual Culture Clash–Community Voices OnPoint with Abandon

“There is someone out there for everyone and chances are you will find them when you least expect them…”

On the surface this seems like a pretty innocent statement for most folks but this statement is so loaded with assumptions that as Asexual causes me a bit of confusion and quite of bit of stress. The assumptions of the above well-meaning phrase goes something like this:

  • You have to “have” someone in order to be “complete” and if you don’t have someone then you have to “look” for them (this for some reason seems to include an inherent need for sexual interaction)
  • And even if you do feel like you are “complete” you must still be open to finding that “special” someone (refer to the first point)

I have always found these messages extremely complex and a bit unclear and to tell you the truth I still do not understand these messages even now at the time of writing this. It does seem that for most people who there really isn’t any confusion and if I ask people to explain I tend to get a lot of blank stares or worse they try to explain and I end up even more confused.

First, there seems to be very little separation between sexual interest/attraction and romantic interest/attraction and even when it can be agreed that romance is completely different from sex for most people the lines are still a bit fuzzy.

Secondly, the whole concept of “You will find that person when you stop looking” is extremely confusing to me. I mean the basic assumption is that all people want to “find” someone. But, for me if I actually “stop looking” that means I no longer want to “find” someone. This is probably just a personal quirk most likely stemming from the fact that I was only looking in the first place because of the assumption, “You have to find someone in order to be complete…etc.” and not any real desire on my part.   Even now as I just wrote that last statement I felt to need to make qualifications such as “if the right person came along…etc.,” In order to show that I am “open” to finding someone because, it feels like if I am content by myself and not particularly interested in finding that “special someone “especially because of some sexual “need” would mean that I am broken some way.

This stigma of somehow being broken has been one of the greatest hurdles to being comfortable with my identity (the other being the desire not to appropriate the identity of a community because like most people I don’t fit neatly into this identity). But after speaking to other people who feel the same as I do and sharing the same puzzlement and relief of not being “the only one” I am more comfortable embracing an Asexual Identity and I am getting better at not qualifying this identity in order to embody something that I don’t personally believe and I am willing to speak out against this stigma.   Asexuality is a real identity and just as valid as being bisexual, or lesbian, or even gay.

Now I am not saying that the original well-meaning statement is wrong or even offensive and in a lot of ways it can come down to “It is the thought that counts” I am just trying to use my own narrative as a just another tool that will hopefully help strengthen our community through mindfulness and respect.

My next installment on this topic will be a brief look at what dating was like for me being not only non-binary (which I have covered before) but more specifically being Asexual.

And if you are reading this and if you think that you might be Asexual –you are not alone and you are most definitely not broken.

your friend Abandon.

These Are a Few of My Favorite Things

Many of us work hard during the week and we all have our ways of winding down and relaxing. My favorite way of relaxing after a hard day of work is to watch my favorite shows on the Internet.

Lyhqdefaultnn Cullen Live.  I don’t know if many of you remember Lynn Cullen. She was a very popular fixture on WTAE-TV and radio. She was a reporter, a feature reporter, a writer and a radio and TV talk show host.  These days you can find Lynn doing her own show on YouTube: “Lynn Cullen Live“. Her show is supported by the City Paper.

 

maxresdefaultTYT The Young Turks. TYT is a Progressive Liberal leaning daily talk show that covers not only politics and the current Presidential race, but many current and hard hitting stories. Cenk Uygur was a staple at MSNBC, but was fired and now does his own live daily show  and the clips are available on YouTube.

maxresdefault1The David Pakman Show/Midweek Politics. David is a liberal YouTube caster that posts current political stories as well as human interest and hard-hitting stories.  The David Pakman Show, originally Midweek Politics with David Pakman, is a multi-platform politics and news talk show currently airing on television, radio, and the Internet, hosted by David Pakman. David Pakman is an LGBTQ Ally and often does stories regarding the LGBTQ community.

rs_1024x759-160712115123-1024-difficult-people-s2-3-ch-071216Difficult People.  This is a quirky, witty, sarcastic, Queer, twisted and hilarious show. Difficult People stars Billy Eichner who is better know as the gay guy who runs through Manhattan screaming silly questions at passersby.  It also stars Cole Escola, Gabourey SidibeJulie Klausner, James Urbaniak and Andrea Martin. This ensemble cast is a little like Seinfeld, a little Arrested Development and a lot of New York.

cb4ab0970d86296c9661e0f79a155473“The Joe Rogan Experience” is hosted on YouTube by Joe Rogan. Joe was the guy that hosted “Fear Factor”. These days Joe covers a wide spectrum of different subjects.  He talks about everything from Gay rights, to Ultimate Fighting to the mysteries of the Universe and even deep philosophical discussions.  Joe’s guest are a real eclectic mix of personalities and every show is a great experience.

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“The Rubin Report” is hosted by Dave Rubin. Dave is a married gay journalist who started his career on TYT and has broken away and begun his own brand of “Liberal” talk show. Dave has some really fascinating guests on such as Sam Harris, Milo Yiannopoulos and Sarah Haider.  Dave covers very interesting topics such as Atheism, feminism, Islamic Radical Terrorism, the Regressive Left and many other topical issues of the day.

 

maxresdefault2“Hey Qween” has got to be my favorite comedy/talk/gossip show on the Internet. Hey Qween is hosted by Jonny McGovern and his sidekick, Lady Red Couture.  Jonny interviews all the RuPaul Drag Race winners and contestants as well as such LGBTQ luminaries as RuPaul, Mathu Anderson, Shane Dawson, Alec Mapa,

Sharon Needles, feb-16-2016-11_32Alaska Thunderfuck, Frank DeCaro, Bruce Villanch, Jake Shears (Scissor Sisters) and Chi Chi LaRue. The sister channel, “Hot T” spills all the latest gossip with Drag co-stars and  Julie Goldman and Brandy Howard both from “The Peoples’ Couch” on BravoTV.

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What are you favorite shows on the Internet?  Thanks for watching!!!

 

 

 

 

 

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